Its All About Christmas

Today, frequenting clubs is no longer the most popular way to find a date, as more and more options are available for the single individual. From the advancements in technology to lesser-known arenas, there are plenty of places to consider when on the lookout for the opposite sex. Below you will find six different places to mull over when joining the ranks of the dating pool:

1) The Internet

Each year, millions of people are involved in some sort of flirting, relationship-type contact, and “getting-to-know-better” conversation across the World Wide Web, including emails, instant messaging, and chat room interaction. The number of dating sites on the Internet has increased over the years, accommodating a wide-range of online daters looking for love, companionship, friendship, and marriage. With a host of specific searches, detailed profiles, and photos – the Internet allows singles to selectively choose their potential partners by scanning information that others post. To succeed in Internet dating, a realistic photo, truthful information, and well-written profiles are highly recommended.

2) Speed Dating Events

With the prospect of meeting 20 to 30 people in one moment, the concept that “first impressions are very important” is taken to a new level. Since many people can tell within a few seconds to minutes if another grabs their attention, a series of many short “dates” is sometimes successful (if not entertaining). Usually, organized events hold 3 to 8-minute intervals, where an organizer rings a bell to signal the changing of participants. At the end of the event, contact information is exchanged when participants share the same interest in one another. Since everyone is looking for a date – it also takes the guesswork out of identifying a single individual.

3) Singles Cruises

There are plenty of singles events that focus on catering to individuals looking for a date and organize unique gatherings that allow singles to get to know one another better. One of the most popular of these events includes singles cruises, which usually transport individuals to tropical destinations, such as the Caribbean, for fun-in-the-sun opportunities to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Additional singles events to consider include winter holidays and wine-tasting parties.

4) Opposite-Sex Related Venues

When women are looking for proper suitors, and men are searching for their next date, it is suggested to think outside of the box and pay a visit to venues that the opposite sex usually frequents. For woman, this may include sporting events and the local gym, while men should consider visiting dance classes (salsa), and fitness classes (yoga, pilates and aerobics). The easy part is locating potential dates – the hard part is striking up successful conversation.

5) Weddings

Many unattached individuals mingle with other singles who attend a wedding by sitting next to them during dinner or the reception; asking for a dance; and offering to retrieve drinks from the bar. To get the lowdown on who is available at the wedding, usually the bride or groom can point you in the right direction.

6) Holiday Parties

For some, Christmas and New Year’s Eve parties often end with the exchange of phone numbers for singles who after a few drinks are able to strike up decent conversation with another. Throughout the year, there are many other holiday parties and special occasions that open the gateway for single mingling, including birthday get-togethers, housewarming parties, BBQ’s, Thanksgiving feasts, and Valentine’s Day dances geared towards singles.

Rosh Hashanah is coming fast. Then there is Thanksgiving. Christmas. Hanukkah. Are you doomed to a miserable holiday if your relatives drive you crazy? What if you are just introducing your family to a serious date, someone who could be the One? Does Aunt Millie always cluck about what a shame it is that you are single? Even if your family is a battlefield, or you are super stressed-out you can turn any holiday one of the best holidays you’ve ever had. Simply use my five-step dating advice “secret sauce” for singles that have to deal with problem relatives at the traditional family gatherings:

1. Shock your troublesome ‘bad egg’ relatives into being cordial or even likeable. List three things, even small things, like hair color or crossword puzzle ability, you truly appreciate about them. Work these things into your conversation in an authentic way at the beginning of the family visit. This will tend to shock these ‘bad eggs’ into being ‘good eggs.’

2. Use the therapist’s secret. When you’re facing a battleaxe relative, win by refusing to fight. Accept comments about your appearance, weight or singlehood that used to upset you with a nod and say “That’s the way you see it.” This really throws them and saves you from a lot of holiday stress.

3. Stop worrying about looking good. Maybe you’ve just broken up with someone who your parents liked. You feel loser-like, vulnerable and lonely coming to the family dinner. You worry about how you are dressed, the extra pounds you’ve put on and various other assorted silly ideas. Realize that the way they see you doesn’t really matter. Underneath whatever they say, they probably love you to pieces. So forget about looking good. Your real job is to have fun and enjoy yourself.

4. Set up a positive bond when a new boy/girlfriend comes to a holiday dinner with your family. Beforehand, tell both the family and your friend all the “good news” about each other. Introduce discussion topics both have interest in. If you are the newbie in the family, bring an incredibly thoughtful gift for the occasion, ask questions and listen a lot. Appreciate any and all good things about the meal, the house and the family members and remember to tell them what you enjoyed!

5. Set your intention for this holiday. You can make up your mind to have a happy holiday, no matter what your family relationships are like. Decide something like, “This is the happiest Rosh Hashanah or Thanksgiving I’ve ever had.” Remember to use the present tense. Instead of engaging in family relationship battles, as soon as it’s possible, give yourself your own fun-excuse yourself and go for a walk or make snow angels with the kids. As it is in other life situations like work and career, setting your intention, is the most important step. This holiday you will probably be just as happy as you decide to be.

You can learn much more about the latest research on creating intentions especially in dealing with friends, frenemies and family in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Some Free Advice on How to Get Your Ex Back

It’s never easy going through a breakup near the holidays, but I’m going to help you out by teaching you a secret that can help you determine if there’s really a chance to get him back and have a merrier Christmas together.

There’s an idea that’s getting really popular right now, of what’s known as an “emotional scale.”  What this basically means is that in your ex’s mind there’s a line that relates to how he feels about each other person in the world.

One one end of the line is total indifference…and on the other end, the extreme emotions like love and hate.  If you’re too far towards the “indifference” side, I’m sorry but it’s going to be really hard to convince him to give it another shot.

HOWEVER, if you’re still on his emotional side, it means he still cares about you and you really just have to help him realize it, since he may really not know it himself.

It’s all in how he treats you, and by looking at how many times he’s tried to make contact with you after the breakup you can read his emotional scale and see where you stand in regards to how he feels about you.

If your ex has made repeated attempts to contact you after the breakup, and really seems to want you in his life, then congratulations, you’re still pretty far up on his emotional scale and you could have a very good chance of getting him back.

So how do you wake him up to how he feels, and win him back to you? For free advice on how to win your ex back, take a look at all the info and videos

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